There is a nice man that comes to one of my yoga classes. He said to me the other day, “I wish I could find time to come as often as you do, Stephanie.” He had commented that I was really showing progress with my yoga poses. I told him I have been doing this for over a year and come 3-4 times a week. He runs his own business and pretty much can schedule what he wants to do during the day. Yoga is not a priority in his schedule. I am not making any judgments on him. Yoga is a priority for me for several reasons, but in general, exercise doesn’t really do you any good if you only do it once in a while.
It is the same way with Spiritual Practice. Whether you prefer to go to traditional church, practice meditation or some other form of spirituality, if you only do it once in a while you don’t get much out of it.
I was discussing that with my husband while on our way to the spiritual discussion group we lead once a month. I intentionally scheduled the meeting to not interfere with anyone’s church schedule or for those who like to sleep in on Sunday. Still so many people find reasons not to come, even though they say they enjoy it when they manage to get there. It is not a priority for them, so they find lots of reasons not to come.
We have a friend who likes to make coffee dates with us only to, more often than not, cancel on us at the last minute. There’s always come “good reason” like a client or her family needs her. She wasn’t always this way with us. It has become very obvious that our friendship is no longer a priority in her life and every thing else comes first. If there is nothing better to do, she might show up.
Then there are those folks that, when you invite them to an event or party, say they will “try to be there”. You can pretty much bet that means they won’t come, so why don’t they just say, “I can’t/won’t be there.”
Decide what is really important to you and set your priorities on that!
If you love someone, don’t just say it. Show it by your actions and how much priority you give them in your life.
If you want to be good at a sport, foreign language, music or art, take time to learn it, practice and practice some more. Make that passion a priority and the results will speak for themselves.
Quit making excuses and finding “better” things to do when someone is counting on you to show up for them. It may be uncomfortable or challenging sometimes, but maybe you both will grow and benefit from that little bit of time you spent together.
Whether it is spending time with your child, your God, your pet, your lover or friend, giving your time and attention is so important. If you can schedule a dentist appointment and keep it, you can schedule time with another being and show how much they mean to you by keeping that appointment.